Review: The 5 Love Languages
Until I read the 5 Love Languages I felt neglected by my family and some friends. Emphasis on felt. Both my family and friends showed me love. Unfortunately, they showed it in a language I haven’t appreciated.
According to Gary Chapman, the author of “The 5 Love Languages”, there are 5 different languages of love. Under language the author understands a way to express love. Each person has a preferred way to express and receive love. The other ways tend to get ignored. This ignorance leads to relationship problems.
What Happens To Love After The Wedding is the first chapter. It and the following two chapters explain what love means in the context of the 5 Languages of Love. What love means after the honeymoon phase.
After that come 5 chapters, explaining in detail each love language. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Following is a chapter on discovering your own love language.
The rest deals more or less on how to get love back into a shattered marriage and how to apply the concept to children.
Personal stories illustrate each subject. They are great examples for miscommunication and what impact speaking the right love language has. With the clear structure it is easy to find information.
My biggest issue was the length. Yes, the stories illustrate but they are too long. I think it would be possible to convey the ideas in a brief way.
As with every review I judged this book for what it is. I know that most of my readers are bachelors with 20 – 35 years. So why would I recommend a relationship book for married couples? First, they will marry a lucky girl some day. When the information will worth a mint. Second, the 5 love languages are applicable to all relationships. You can apply the principles to friends, family, partners, colleagues, to anybody. For example, you can detect the love language of a dear friend and appreciate him in a language he understands best. Understanding the love languages makes it easier to bond.
Reading the book changed all my relationship. Now I can see when people show me affection and return it in the right language. I saved some relationships with the described principles.
This book is a must read for people with relationship problems! I also recommend it to everybody who wants deeper relationships and to be more charismatic.