Porns Toxic Influence On A Stoics Mind Part 2
In the first part of this article I was writing about how porn is unnatural, addictive and the influence on masculinity. Sadly that’s not everything. Porn also influences at least two more important areas in your life. Your social life and your sex life.
Porns Toxic Influence On Your Social Life
Watching porn is hurting your social life. (And you know how important a social life is!) This happens mainly in 2 ways.
“Anything which interferes with my social life is a no-no.” – Cilla Black
First, porn makes us see women as sex objects. The women in porn have only one purpose, SEX. They show no other characteristics than being sexual vixen. In porn women let men do whatever they want. If there is a plot the woman is never portrait as more than a sex object. When we watch porn we start to think that’s reality. We start to think that woman are just there for our pleasure. It changes our behavior with all women; every interaction. That makes it much harder to connect with women.
Second, porn makes us see other men as competitors. As I wrote in the first part, while we watch porn we compare ourselves with the actor. That leads to low self-esteem. But we not only compare ourselves with the actor but also with other guys. That’s normal but porn makes you feel that every other guy gets more girls than you. We start to envy them. That makes it harder to connect with men as well.
We humans are group animals. We live in tribes. It is our nature. We need at least one tribe to survive.
Tribes are build on trust and connections. Otherwise, they can’t function. If you can’t connect with women and men you can’t create trust. Slowly porn turns into a loner. Society will ostracize you.
“If you’re satisfied with your social life, according to psychologists, you tend to be satisfied with life in general.” – Robin Marantz Henig
You don’t believe me!? From year to year your social circle will decrease in size, if you can’t connect with new people. Look at all the old people. The majority of them have no (real) friends.
Porns Toxic Influence On Your Sex Life
It’s a paradox. Porn is all about sex. But watching porn slowly destroys your sex life.
Imagine a world without porn. What would you do instead of watching porn? You would probably be chasing girls and have a normal sex life. Instead, you put all that sexual energy into porn. Watching porn robs you from your sexual energy. Porn is a major reasons why most guys don’t go out to find a girl. They simply don’t have the energy and drive.
Sexual energy can be a key reason for success and happiness. At least it gives you the drive and motivation to pursue your goals.
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” – Tom Robbins
I already mentioned above that porn makes you objectify women. It also makes your standards for women too high. In other words you won’t feel attraction towards the average girl. You will only feel attracted towards beautiful, for sex graving, girls. They don’t exist! Those girls are a fantasy created by the porn industry. And while you look for them you miss great opportunities with normal girls.
Porn addiction leads to more and more bizarre porn. I described the process in Part I and my article on Porn addiction. Porn has the same impact on your sexual desires. You will desire to do the same things they do in porn. And if you don’t get it, you won’t be able to get an erection. The end of that road leads to impotence. Either because you can’t find something more bizarre or because your organs are exhausted. I have to repeat that.
Watching porn leads to impotence!
“I don’t know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.” – Woody Allen
(If you want to know how to fight the addiction, read my ultimate how to quit porn guide!)
I once talked with a friend about porn and masturbation. In my opinion he did both way to often. He argued that porn isn’t harmful. He isn’t hurting anybody and it keeps him calm.
I read about the same argument in fitness blogs and forums. I heard it in sport shows on TV. This argument always comes up when somebody talks about porn.
They always claim that porn isn’t harmful.
I never heard or read that porn is good. When I did research for this article couldn’t find any positive effect of porn. Because there is none.
I showed you many ways how porn influences your life negatively. This should be reason enough to stop.
And I do understand that watching porn is addictive. Stopping isn’t easy. It’s hard!
I will explain soon how to fight porn addiction and stop watching porn for good.