How do you practice your social skills? That’s a funny question, isn’t it? All the socially savvy people I asked had never practiced their social skills. They have no idea how. All the socially unsavvy people I asked have no idea either. The advice I got was to talk to as many different people as possible. But, I feared approaching new people because I had no idea how to behave and what to talk about. The thought alone paralyzed me. I feared rejection until I found probably the easiest way to practice my social skills.
Acknowledgment at work feels great. I love to get acknowledgment for great work and great ideas. I’m sure you love to get acknowledgement at work as well. Sadly, leaders and colleagues don’t always show acknowledgement, when it is appropriate. They should! And we should do it as well. The only question left is: What is the best way to show acknowledgement?
“The greatest humiliation in life, is to work hard on something from which you expect great appreciation, and then fail to get it.” – E. W. Howe
Do you know what you want to study? Do you know what career you want to pursue? Are you 100% sure? Do you want to study? Or, do your parents urge you to study? All these questions are important for prospective students. I recommend following advice to find an answer to each one of these questions.
“Just taking risks for risk’s sake, that doesn’t do it for me. I’m willing to take risks that I think are worth it, and I’ve worked so hard to make sure that I survive.” – Chris Hadfield
Yes, social circles can hurt your training results! Your social circles influence how you make decisions. Thus, they influence the decisions about your training.
The simple fact that social circles influence your training decisions isn’t harmful. It hurts your training results when your goals don’t align with the circles goals.
“The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits.” – Dan Buettner
Example: Bodybuilding and Strength Training
To this day I regret that I didn’t make more friends at college. When I started studying I was a different person. I was very introverted, insecure and I had self-doubts. I was the first in my family to study at a German university and completely new to the environment. The first two semesters my goal was to survive. Looking back I realized how much suffering I could have avoided with help from friends. With that in mind I want to teach you 9 ways to make friends your first semester in college.
“Should I tell him he that his work is incorrect?”, asked my colleague. We write code in a Scrum team. Scrum is a process that involves a review. Developer A writes the code, developer B reviews it. Feedback and proposals for improvement are anticipated. Still, a review can be tough with difficult people, despite the environment. In general it is tough to tell people they did something wrong. But, you can avoid much conflict by using following guideline.
These days people are more than ever looking at what they eat. Health and fitness are a part of the mainstream. You (almost) can’t go out eating without a discussion on what you should eat to be healthy. Everybody has an opinion on how a great diet looks like. There is a common understanding that what you consume is important for your bodies well-being. The same understanding is missing for your minds well-being. Regarding movies (and other media) people consume any piece of trash. (Following I will use movies in place of media in general; radio, Internet, newspapers etc.)
What Influence Movies Have
Successful people ask for help and so should you! Nobody is a self-made man. Every successful person you know got help in some way or another. They know their strengths and weaknesses. The best way to work around ones weaknesses is by asking for help. Then, the problem gets solved faster, cheaper and better! Still, there is a general aversion to ask for help. Usually it is the fear of rejection or the fear of crossing a line by asking for too much. Asking the right way will increase the chances to get help and decrease the fear.
There is an African proverb that says: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” To reach big goals you will need the help of others. There is no way around that fact! Still, some people leave this part of their goals to chance. Here is a better alternative! By setting networking goals you can increase the chance to succeed with your big goals!
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” – African proverb
The help of the right people will make a big difference in your life. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Networking goals are a soft framework that helps you to find those people.
With 20 years Arnold Schwarzenegger became the youngest Mr. Universe. Since he was a little boy he dreamed of moving to the USA and becoming a great star. In 1968 Joe Weider invited Arnold to train in the USA. He continued body building to become Mr. Universe 5 times and Mr. Olympia 7 times. His acting career started in 1969 with ‘Hercules in New York’ and made him one of the biggest stars in the 80s and 90s. His childhood dreams turned into reality because he positioned himself for networking success!